May 1982
Somehow or other Matt, an old church friend from high school and college days came to visit on Memorial Day weekend. I hadn’t seen him in several years, and my LA friends, it turned out, weren’t all that inclined to make the trip to Fresno.
Grace left us alone to freely tell stories of the old days, the BG—before Grace—days she and I called them. But Matt started off on the present days, all the way up to the very moment he was standing there on the front porch. Maybe that’s what prompted me to take us back to our past.
“This is nice.”
“Thanks.”
He took off his sunglasses and turned away from me and surveyed the front yard, then stepped inside and nodded approbation at the modest kitchen.
“Real nice.”
“Yeah.”
“You never said a word.”
“What?”
“You never said a damn thing.”
“What’re you talking about?”
“I had a real job way before you. I started buying stuff.”
“Yeah?”
“I had stereo equipment. I was buying five records a week. Guitars, amps. I bought a car.”
“I had a car.”
“Your mom’s station wagon.”
“The Torino!”
“You were never jealous.”
“Why would I be? I was happy for you.”
It was true that I never said anything, and it was true that I was happy for him. He got the first real job and was living at home and started buying stuff. It did give me that panicky feeling, even in my early 20’s, about what I was doing with my life. But I didn’t connect that to Matt.
“Damn you, Chavoor. You never had a jealous bone in your body.”
“Well, thanks. I don’t…I’m not…I don’t know.”
“Not a single bone. You never said a word. Not even a pinkie finger bone.”
“I don’t understand you, man. I mean, I don’t know.”
“Now you got a house, man. A freakin house!”
“Oh well, you know. Thanks. Uh.”
It wasn’t difficult to be modest. After all, the down payment came from Grace and she met the first 3 or 4 payments while I was stumbling my way into employment—job hunting, subbing and finally getting a job, albeit at adult school, which wasn’t my first choice.
“Show me the back yard.”
“Sure. Here, come on. This way. The grand tour.”
“Wait a minute now. This backyard? It’s huge!”
“Yeah? Thanks. That’s a apricot right there. And nectarine over there.”
“Just like your old man.”
“Every Armenian has at least one apricot tree.”
“True.”
“It’s a fact of life. Birds, bees, and Armenians with fruit trees in their back yard.”
“Yeah, really.”
“Don’t you mean Reah, yilly?”
There was a whole language the group of us spoke. Tired old puns and routines they may have been, but it was like holding up your membership card, and membership in your 20’s is a very important thing. Now, creeping up on 30 we bantered with the old phrases, like holding up the same souvenir.
“Farm out, man!”
“Right arm!”
“In the grove!”
“Who started that anyway?”
“What?”
“Reah, Yilly.”
“You know what, Chavoor? I’m pretty sure it was YOU!”
“Oh, yeah. No, I think it was you. Or maybe Robert.”
“Robert?”
“Maybe his brother, then.”
“Guess what? When you get right down to it, who knows?”
“Yeah.”
I got up and got a couple of beers from the fridge. I was going to say something like “Sorry, all out of Michelob,” the beer of choice in the old days, but I gave him an Anchor Steam beer without commentary.
“So what are you listening to these days?” Tom asked.
“Nothing. There isn’t anything.”
“There’s always something, Chavoor.”
“Yeah. I’m into bluegrass. And even some classical.”
“What?”
“Ok, ok. It’s not a big deal. There’s Warren Zevon.”
“You were in to that guy.”
“He’s got a song on the new album. It’s called Gorilla you’re a desperado.”
“Nuts.”
“Yeah and he escapes from the LA Zoo but the lifestyle makes him depressed.”
“Actually, bananas!”
“And the Eagles sing the harmony on it.”
The Eagles singing a parody of their own song; I was sure he’d like that.
“The Eagles suck, let’s be honest.”
“Yeah, the Byrds were a much better band.”
But there was something else. He sat up straight and changed his tone. I didn’t know where he was going but I knew I wanted to sidetrack him.
“I tossed my Eagles albums,” he said with much gravitas.
“Did you melt them in the oven like the Deep Purple albums?”
“Ha-ha. You remember that?”
“Heck yeah, man. It was your brother’s idea if I recall.”
“Yeah.”
“That was awesome.”
“But the Eagles, I just chucked their stuff.”
“Before you upchucked.”
“Seriously though, they’re promoting darkness.”
“What?”
“Hotel California? Know what that’s about?”
I had heard that the song had some kind demonic connection but I hadn’t meant anyone who actually believed it.
“Yeah, death of the spirit of the 60’s.”
“Stabbed it with their steely knives but they just can’t kill the beast,” Matt said, as if this made it obvious.
“Exactly. The system gained back the control. It couldn’t be killed.”
“The beast. See it? Those guys were into Satan.”
“What? The Eagles?”
“I’m telling you.”
“I don’t know, man.”
“Believe it.”
“But it won’t be hard to not listen to them. I don’t like them much. I heard Tom Waits called them the Lettermen of the 70’s.”
“See? That’s how it goes. You don’t suspect anything. But there’s a darkness in them. Maybe they don’t even know about it.”
“Well….”
“Just look at the album cover some time. That’s all I’m saying.”
“Paranoia strikes deep. Into your life it will creep.”
“Just because you’re paranoid, doesn’t mean they aren’t out to get you! And I ain’t paranoid. Just awake.”
“Awake?”
Had he become a Jehovah’s Witness? Where was Matt? What was happening?
“Yeah. Like you use Procter and Gamble products, right?”
“I guess.”
“Sure you do. They own everything. Tide, Crest, Prell shampoo.”
“Grandma Ruth loved that Prell shampoo.”
“But did you ever look at their logo?”
“Logo?”
“The moon and the stars.”
“Yeah, I guess.”
“The man in the moon has a beard and in the beard you can see the numbers 666, and the top of his head you can see devil horns.”
“Ah come on, man.”
“It’s the truth.”
“It’s just like, a, a coincidence.”
“Stay asleep, then.”
“So, like, you got rid of all Procter and Gamble products?”
“Yep.”
I waited for a while to see if he was going to erupt in to laughter, point at me and say “Got you good that time.” That was something he would do. He didn’t say anything though, just nodded almost imperceptibly.
“What about rock and roll? Did you get rid of all your albums? They all do stuff that you don’t do anymore.”
“No. Music will always speak to me.”
“Except there aren’t any great new bands, not like the old bands.”
“There’s Van Halen.”
“I’m not into them.”
“They are badass, Chavoor.”
“They’re from Van Nuys.”
“No they’re not! Where’d you hear that?”
“I don’t know. So they covered You Really Got Me. Big deal. Dave Davies didn’t even like it.”
“From Van Nuys, come on! Eddie Van Halen. One of the greatest guitar living guitar players.”
“They’re kind of hedonistic.”
“Also called rock and roll!”
“Not all of it. Depends on the lyrics.”
“Depends what you’re listening for. Eddie Van Halen plays the guitar like no one else.”
I thought we had all been on the same page. It was all about the lyrics, right? Apparently not. And how could a relatively new band have a great guitar player? All the great guitar players were already playing. Or were no longer with us.
“There’s still Santana.”
“He’s into jazz now.”
“Heard something by them that was not jazz. I hated the album Lotus. But this was more rock. They got a new singer.”
“You don’t always need to sing. Take Neil Young for instance!”
I was so glad he alighted on Neil Young. He was not just the favorite of the gang; he was a family member.
“I know you won’t toss any of his albums.”
“No way.”
“Those three albums, Tonight’s the Night….”
“Zuma!”
“Yeah, and On the Beach.”
“So many great songs in those three albums.”
We breathed out the lyrics, back and forth, like blowing on embers when out of wood on a cold, cold night.
“It’s so good to be here, asleep on your lawn! Remember your guard dog, I’m afraid that he’s gone!”
“I’m not going back to Woodstock for a while, though I long to hear that lonesome hippie smile.”
He was our spokesman, our lens for looking at the world.
“Remember that song with the line Burnouts stub their toes on garbage pails.”
“Ambulance Blues. Yeah, man.”
It was a bleak, pessimistic vision, but if we couldn’t fix the world, we sure were going to say what was wrong with it.
“You’re all just pissing in the wind…”
“You don’t know it, but you are.”
“There was even a line in there about Nixon.”
“Never met a man, who could tell so many lies. Had a different story for every set of eyes.”
“How can he remember who he’s talking to? Cause I know it ain’t me and I hope it isn’t you.”
“I think that what Dylan was to the 60’s, Neil Young was to the 70’s.”
“Yeah, now the 80’s. Who knows?”
“But they say he made a statement in an interview that he supported Reagan’s defense policy.”
“Everybody changes, Jack.”
“He’s Canadian, what does he care?”
“He’s been in LA most of his musical career.”
“Yeah.”
It was as if he was a peer I was mad at.
“Don’t forget his early stuff. Don’t let it bring you down…”
“It’s only castles burning.”
“On the 4 Way Street album he says, Here’s a song called don’t let it bring you down, guaranteed to bring you down.”
“I remember you used to say that all the time. And there was that other one. You’re underneath the stairs, giving back some glares.”
“Sugar Mountain.”
“How about I’m singing this borrowed tune….”
“Too wasted to write my own.”
“Ha-ha. Yeah.”
“I tell you what man, I lived all that shit.”
“I know.”
“I was one of the best dealers in the Valley.”
“Whatever you get into Matt, it’s whole-hog.”
“Had some close calls.”
“I’m glad you got out of it.”
“There was that day though that you showed up on the front porch.”
This was the story he like reviewing most of all.
“Hadn’t seen you in a while.”
“I opened the door.”
“It was like…”
“I was just staring. Like a zombie.”
“I saw why John was calling you sphinx-head. Your hair was like a triangular Afro.”
“It’s why Armos can’t have long hair!”
“It was cool though. You were probably the first guy to have an Armenio!”
“You know what? You’re right!”
“All you needed was gold chains, an open shirt and multiple rings.”
“Standing in front of my auto-repair shop with a pack of ciggies in my front pocket.”
“Perfect.”
“Ha-ha. That’s right. We gotta call out our own stereotypes before the odars. That way they can’t get to us.”
He had been the president of our high school church group. Then something went wrong at a convention and he got the blame. So he quit the church and leaped into a life quite the opposite. When I realized no one in the church group was thinking about Matt at all, as if he never existed, I decided to go visit him.
“I remember that day on the porch though. You opened the door and just stood there.”
“For like five minutes. Finally I said, Chavoor.”
“You must have been stoned.”
“Hung over, maybe.”
“Then your dad invited me in and brought me a beer.”
“That’s right.”
“No adult had ever brought me a beer. I thought he was the coolest guy ever.”
“Yeah. And we talked a long time. After Dad left.”
“Not too long.”
“But it got me thinking. And I started to change after that. Maybe not because of the visit but it’s like a marker or something.”
“I’m glad.”
“Yeah. Almost everything changed.”
“Yep.”
We raised our beers and drank. We were quiet for a while.
“Hey, did you ever watch Gene Scott?” Matt asked.
“The crazy guy who smoked pipes and wore crazy hats and yelled into the camera for people to hurry up and send their money?”
“Yeah! That’s him!”
“Couldn’t even understand what he was saying half the time.”
“But if you listen enough times it starts to make sense.”
“I don’t know, man. I don’t know what he had in that pipe!”
“He does that just to be entertaining. But when he gets into it, it’s pretty good.”
“I think it’s local. They don’t broadcast it here. He’s like from Glendale, right?”
He was staring at a spot on the floor. Then when I saw there was nothing there I figured he had zoned out thinking about something.
“I gotta get something from the car. Come on.”
“What is it?”
“It’s for you and Grace. A house-warming present.”
“Oh, you didn’t have to get a …”
“Oh, shut up, Chavoor. You got a house. You’ll like this, I’m just know it.”
It was a grandfather style wall clock. He was right. I did like it. It was old fashioned, and old fashioned, but not antique, equaled cool to me in those days.
“Wow, man. I really like this. Thanks.”
“There’s a story that goes with it.”
We came back to the house, sat down in the living room there and he unleashed the strangest, most convoluted, craziest tale I had ever heard. Grace joined us in time to hear and it was so out there that at the time we had no choice but to believe it. And the teller of the tale was a close friend; I met him when I was 17 and he was 15, and there is something magical about friendships at that age or younger. There is no lying, not on a subject as serious as the clock story. We repeated the story—most of it— several times afterwards to friends and acquaintances.
I was sure I would remember it forever. But like dried leaves on patio furniture on a blustery March day, the story is gone. There are bits of it, which include a threat from some very bad, ruthless people, a kidnapping, a long drive in a large white van, Long Beach, blindfolds, the clock, more threats, why the police were of no help, and the escape, getting back to the Valley but the rest of it is as they say, in the wind. If you need to hear it another way, the story just didn’t have a shelf life. It was a dazzling, over the top story, which cost all the coins that friendships could spend on a given story. And with the clock story, Matt tapped out. No more credibility coins. It was Memorial Day weekend and we were going to have a barbecue and a couple of beers the next day. I wanted to host a Memorial Day gathering every year and invite my LA friends. I wanted them to meet my Fresno friends. He sat slouched on the chair, his index finger dabbed his mustache while he scanned the room, maybe wondering where I’d put the clock, the clock that had been a factor in the craziest episode of Matt’s, or anyone’s life.
“Oh, I forgot something else in the car, I’ll be right back.”
“All right.”
He came back, holding a revolver low and close to his hip. He tried to look nonchalant, as if I wouldn’t notice or say anything if I did notice.
“What is that, man? What are you doing?”
“These are different times, Jack.”
“Are you afraid?”
“I’m not afraid. It’s for my security. I will protect myself wherever I am. Anything could happen anywhere.”
“You…”
We stood in the kitchen, face to face, having our own showdown.
“That’s just how it is. I hope you respect that.”
“Well, I respect your right to own a gun.”
“Thank you.”
“I have never in all my life felt the need to carry or own one. And I can tell you that my father never had or wanted one.”
“That’s cool.”
“Yeah, and when I was a kid and every kid in town had a Fanner 50 cap gun, my dad said no, I wasn’t having one, because why would I play at something I should never do?”
“Yeah?”
“Yeah, and then I found a picture taken around Christmastime before I was born, and my brother had a cowboy hat, a vest, a badge, a holster and two toy guns. I was confused and upset.”
“Your Dad looked at it one way for a while and then changed.”
“I wanted a Fanner 50 real bad. I was hurt and angry. But you know what, by the time I was in junior high I was over it; nobody was into it anymore and if I wanted things to make a noise I would buy a roll of caps and bash the entire roll with a hammer or buy some firecrackers, and by the time I was in high school I could see that Dad was, like, well he had a philosophy and he put it into action and it was very cool to me and it still is.”
“I hear you, man.”
“As far as I know Dad’s dad didn’t have a gun. So, see, the thing is, you are a guest in my house and there’s no threat here. If you feel you can take the chance of spending one night without your gun in my house, you are welcome here. But there just aren’t goona be any guns in my house.”
“Are you asking me to put the gun back in the car?”
“Yes, I am. I am respecting your right to have a gun, and I am asking you to respect my right not to have guns in my house.”
“All right, man. I will do that. Because, well, because it’s cool what you said.”
“Thank you.”
And he went back out to the car. He might have looked a little annoyed, but I wasn’t sure and at the time I cared more about the principle than accommodating my friend of many years.
The comfort, security of the communal feeling that we all have just before we pair off or otherwise go our own way—to make harder, more personalized choices— goes away with passage of time. But we eventually arrive at something better; we stand on what we have learned and what we believe to be true. Along the way we get wise in our own eyes, anyway that’s how it is at the beginning. But with luck, prayer, struggle, and experience we level off and realize our own system is as good or as bad as most and the learning curve extends for the entirety of our lives.
The Neil Young song we never talked about much may have been the most instructive. He recorded it when he was 33 years old. “Comes a time when you’re drifting. Comes a time when you settle down… Oh, this old world keeps turning round. It’s a wonder tall trees ain’t laying down. There comes a time.”
It’s funny that I remember the story of the gun better than the story of the clock. Maybe not, though.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsWrmJjD2eY